tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36804534.post8974456725275602692..comments2021-03-27T18:19:58.067-06:00Comments on Aunt BeaN's Third Blog: spewBarbNhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12088366782915923507noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36804534.post-26653902350640376992011-12-31T11:13:20.797-07:002011-12-31T11:13:20.797-07:00@julie-- thank you. I woke up worrying about how w...@julie-- thank you. I woke up worrying about how whiney this was this morning, so I'm glad it didn't sound too bad. My mom really is a gem, she's just getting a little... oh, I'm not even sure what the right word is, but she's getting more that way as she gets older.<br /><br />@debbie-- I would probably just go ahead and kill myself if I had to plan a wedding in my mom's BarbNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12088366782915923507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36804534.post-7051969050306536202011-12-31T06:30:45.409-07:002011-12-31T06:30:45.409-07:00Spewing about your mother is very cathartic. Belie...Spewing about your mother is very cathartic. Believe me I KNOW. Although I haven't ever spewed on my blog about the "issues" she and I before TMO's wedding because she reads the blog. And they were BIG issues that continue to reverberate in our relationship. But I spewed to HHBL and I spewed in my journal and that helped.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11326484192966920116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36804534.post-60877827781763452342011-12-31T00:22:23.653-07:002011-12-31T00:22:23.653-07:00Spew all you need to, it's what blogs were inv...Spew all you need to, it's what blogs were invented for. Okay, maybe not ONLY, but hey, we use what we've got. <br /><br />Karen said it better than I can, but I totally agree. It's just so complicated, both with our mothers, and later with our daughters.<br />Julie<br /><br />(Also, that did NOT sound like a whine. At all. Just letting you know.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36804534.post-32618440265692197362011-12-30T23:22:10.654-07:002011-12-30T23:22:10.654-07:00yes, Fokker's post was what prompted me to fin...yes, Fokker's post was what prompted me to finally sit down and type rather than just simmer about it. It occurred to me today that the reason I kept picking at her was because I was trying to force her hand, force her to choose to either be supportive or not (and invariably, on this trip, she chose not)(that has not always been the case). I do that with Dean sometimes too-- if I think he&#BarbNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12088366782915923507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36804534.post-91178432640323303502011-12-30T18:51:58.232-07:002011-12-30T18:51:58.232-07:00Oh, yeah. Moms. They do get you where you live, do...Oh, yeah. Moms. They do get you where you live, don't they? Did you read Fokker's blog post? That mother/daughter relationship is so deep, so primal, it's where our earliest sense of ourselves develops and it is so, so hard to be able to step outside of that paradigm and see it dispassionately. Go ahead and spew as necessary. Often writing it out helps work it out. Good luck with the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com